Disappointed, Now What? Freak Out or Maintain Emotional Balance?
I was so disappointed: exactly one week after my book “Goodbye Anxiety, Hello Freedom” was published, I got the ultimate test to see if I really could “walk my talk”.
I received a phone call that left me disappointed, devastated and heartbroken. I had the ultimate opportunity to choose: do I react (as I always had) OR do I respond? I chose to respond…it doesn’t mean I didn’t cry from the depths of my soul (I’m talking gut wrenching, soul piercing howling), but thankfully I have built up enough emotional resilience to not go into freak out and “what if” mode.
I share this with you so you understand: life WILL throw us curveballs, but we can choose to allow them to flatten us OR to wobble, feel and allow the grief and then keep moving.
Emotional resilience is the key to dealing with feeling disappointed, devastated and heartbroken.
It is not something we suddenly decide “oh today I am going to become emotionally resilient” – it is a process. We must build that muscle memory and practice it daily. The reason I offer 35 skills and techniques in my book is to allow each reader the opportunity to find which ones will work best for themselves. As a plus size yoga teacher, I KNOW that one size doesn’t fit all!
We all experience anxiety differently, so I can’t say “This is what worked for me, so do that.” You may not like Tapping or essential oils, and you may love square breathing and legs up the wall.
The important thing to remember is that if you truly want to live a life of freedom and joy, you have to commit to making simple shifts every day.
Simple shifts are what create lasting changes.
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